Adultery

@Sneha Goyal - why do we Indians always blame men or women. Cant we evolve as humans and think of Gender Equality. The world now accepts contract marriages (pre nuptial contracts). These contracts make sense in world we have become mean to the core. High time we legalize contract marriages in India. more  

Why only men? Is not it equally applicable to the other sex? more  

India is a sick society, a mental asylum of all that is rotten. The way many reacted to the judgement itself is an evidence. Why are we following the idiotic law passed by the erstwhile colonial masters. I wonder how can adultery be considered a criminal act? Adultery is not something new. It is as old as human history. Man alone is punished for adultery, while woman is not. All kinds of excuses are put forward to defend her. why can't we have gender neutral laws, laws that have clarity. Adultery does not lead to collapse of society, if that was the case our society should have disintegrated long ago. Proof is very solid. for all to see. if you look away to the other side, i can't waste my time arguing with you. In adultery, both man and woman are involved. Instead of inquiring why they got into that relationship, our law was only eager to criminalise it. Another thing as per our law is that man cannot have sex with another married woman unless she has permission from her husband. What a grand idea to start a home based prostitution business! And if the man had sex with an unmarried woman, then law views it differently. Sex is a normal human urge. if wife cannot give it to husband or the husband cannot give it to the wife, the possibility is that it will find a way to seek it. Sometimes it will end up with two people getting into an illicit relationship, sometimes it takes another form, not a relationship, but collecting or possessing things, greed for money and property, over eating etc. these are few of the manifestations, if not treated could also lead to marital tensions. Every man or woman will wish their wife/husband is handsome, has good physical attributes, responds to their physical needs. These are basic needs. Many Indians after a certain age head towards spirituality, not because they got an inner call; they realised that they are sick, unhealthy and not fit enough for a healthy sexual life. That is the hard truth. But they will not admit it. If her or her spouse is in an adulterous relationship, the best thing is to talk about together and then take a fast decision. Going to police station will not help now. The courts will take atleast a decade to pass a verdict. The best way to separate by divorce. Compromised life is not a life at all. Take a divorce and life your life on your own terms. That will certainly not lead to disintegration of the society. more  

The very basic of marriage is remaining loyal to each other, emotionally and physically. The judgment has a sentence saying that 'marriage does not mean limiting choices' or words to that affect. Then what is marriage? If restrictions is not part of marriage or even social life then what is it? If we can go on satisfying our urge with whomsoever, we feel is our choice, then why marry? And at this rate soon fathers may suspect the children of being from somebody else. Yes, court said, morally it may be wrong. But with village elders and various versions of khap panchayats (that used to ensure morals earlier) loosing hold, who enforces morals now? Isnt the rule of law replacing moral policing in a civilised society? Can the law be independent of morals required for society? And isnt it an part of agreement of marriage to remain physically loyal to each other? If yes then isnt it the duty of law to ensure that agreements are respected? Very confusing verdict in my opinion. more  

Ms. Sneha ji, Yes such adultery relationship may be cause for Divorce with appropriate compensation. It is no more Criminal offense under sec.497, which was 150 years old law. But, if the wife in her distress because of such relationship, commits suicide then he can be tried under Criminal section for abetting suicide. But this is may be the grounds for Divorce accordingly compensation will be allowed by the court. But please understand the court merely removed it from criminal offence. But never encouraged or intend to encourage for adultery or something else like this because of present trends & social fabric of the society. But plz note it did say that the men cannot treat the female as their property. Whether one involves in Adultery or not it is their personal choice. Of late, Women are supporting the family financially & enjoying Economy freedom, they demand respect & freedom. Like in a recent judgement SC has removed the consent adult gay sex as a Criminal Act under sec.377. But SC never encouraged for such act. It just said it is no more Criminal Act. But the media has blown out of proportion in its report gathering eyeballs./ TRP. Now the thinking is entirely different among the youngsters thanks to Market Economy. Sex before Marriage was taboo in older days but no more now. One girl was answering, when a question asked why you indulge in such act, she coolly responds that they wanted to test his ability to satisfy them sexually, even after the marriage. So called the Love marriages are getting increased of late, criticizing the arranged marriage. Yes it is arranged marriage, we do take the opinion of the both Boy & Girl with their concurrence only then we go ahead with the marriage, it is not forced marriage. These kind of disruption is happening not only in Metro cities but in tier 2 and tier 3 cities in a higher percentage, there will be one story at least reported daily in the newspaper of girl eloping with a boy or the boy eloping with the girl he has loved or in relationship during or a day before marriage embarrassing every one. As long as the society is Money oriented & driven by the Market Economy the values, civil behaviors, habits do change whether it is with boys or girls it is immaterial. KAALAYA THAS MAI NAMAHA.( IT IS ALL ACCORDING TO TIME) Tx, more