Children Psychological disturbances due to Marital Disputes

With Increase in the marital cases in the courts of India, it becomes increasingly difficult to give proper & healthy upbringing for the children. Children need unified family atmosphere to fully grow into level headed matured adults.

Such issues are further amplified by petty matters like treating the parent as some kind of distant relative & asking them to pay for & submit applications for "visitation" rights, "maintenance", etc. does in no way address the real issue of 24 hours parenting.

Parents need to be with their children 24 hours a day. Neither can the mother replace the father nor can the father replace the mother. It is an universal truth that both the parents are required. However with forcing equality & equating mother with father & father with mother, the various institutions of law go with very frivolous argumentations which may have been valid at least a century ago.

While there are enough laws & documents like -
1. The UNCRC 1989 (United Nations Conventions for the Rights of Children) clearly states that the child needs both the parents and has the rights to freely access both.
2. The Supreme Court has recently made a judgment on Parental Alienation Syndrome.
3. There have been numerous case studies done which point out to the difficulties faced by the Father less & Mother less children.
4. Children go through harrowing time seeing their parents fight. The Institutions make it more difficult by not having professional counseling and other means to let the child understand that the family is unified for them. rather there is long drawn custody battles in the court. It affects their view of life & hampers their upbringing.
5. The United Nations declaration of 1954 declares the family as a universal tree for children to grow.
6. The Constitution of the country gives rights to the children.

However the real implementation is always slack and the real issues get side tracked for commercial gains of others.

Often it has been seen that its easier to go with falsified appeals, rather than be honest. Falsified appeals are heard & complied to for a lot of time.

At the end of the day the very purpose of having a family gets defeated.

The Junior Courts, Child Welfare Committees, Commission for the rights of children, etc.. somehow do not identify the breaking down of the marriage institution of parents with children as a crime. They accept it as a part of the society and there is no grievance redressal mechanism for healthy growth of the children. Inspite of children friendly laws.

If the basic building block of the society breaks down, how does anyone expect the streets to be safe? Strangers get easy access in such situations. It becomes even more difficult to raise the children - both for the Father & the Mother.

After in free country like ours, what at all is the purpose of marriage? Why marry if one of the spouses wants to break down the institution of marriage AFTER birth of children?

Questions
1. Should matrimonial problems be discouraged for parents who have children? Should the courts allow only issue less couples to apply for divorces & litigations?
2. Should marriage come with a vow - "We will not separate if we have children" (that way we may be able to tackle some of our population problems also)
3. Should the organizations built to take care of children be made more responsive & responsible?
Or
4. Should we accept the break down of family value systems as part of a changing country, & let there be more destruction? (Children with family disturbances grow up quite disturbed... One need not count exceptions as general trend) more